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November 21, 2009


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Christine Ishmael

What you wrote is beautiful and is exactly how I feel...I recently lost a very dear friend...made me do a lot of thinking...thanks for sharing


So thought provoking! I have relationships that mirror the sentiment to pen such a post and loved the heart felt through your words. I am challenged by your words and grateful!


This post speaks to me I know exactly what you are referring too. I call my best friend my soul mate. We are so alike it is scary sometimes. I have been following your blog for some time. I forget exactly where I came across it but I believe you are fabulous :-)


I really love and appreciate this post. I'm in a time of transition that is causing a certain re-evaluation of the people in my life and who I'm seeking to surround myself with.

Becky G.

What a sweet post! I have read that some friends come into our life for a minute, to fill a need we have for that specific moment in time. We have friends that are in our lives for a season, because there is something we can learn from them, or maybe they need to learn something from us. And then there are the friends who are there for a lifetime, because that is the way God intended, and those are our truest friends. Blessings! Becky


i feel truly blessed to be chosen as your friend! God gave me such a special gift with you girls. I know I say this all the time! You're a treasure to me. You are a true soul and I love you so much! I hope I get a chance to call you next week to wish you a very happy thanksgiving! You are such a wonderful gift in such a very hard year!


This made my heart flutter! There are a few of my friends who I am going to send this link to.


Wow this is exactly how I have been feeling lately. I only want to surround myself with people that make me happy.I want my friendships to be meaningful. Thank you for putting your feelings into words because it helped me put mine into perspective.


Jeanne- You can't have any idea how I needed this post right now. I feel like you just gave me permission to feel the way I'm feeling and to do what I need to protect my heart. And maybe to let it go. Thank you.

the wild raspberry

what a beautiful and inspiring post...one i could come back to again and again. i am blessed with a handful of really great friends. friends that will be there through the thick and thin.
who cares about being "popular" anymore~ let's just get a few close friends and hold them close.
thanks ~


Jeanne, what a great post...i choose for my friends girls who are real...and who realize we are far past our high school days...i work in a hospital where most of the staff are women, and i am always amazed by the attitudes and actions of some of these "ladies"...there is a lot of immaturity out there...it makes me nuts...

Destiny (The Ruffled Nest)

How perfect is this...so honest and true. I am returning to "The Barn" today and have been pondering all the "drama" that I've witnessed there in the past. I am going back with an open mind and will be "choosy" with who I call friend. It's so hard to trust people these days and what you said about women being jealous and often hateful and hurtful is SO true. I've seen it more often than I should have. Thanks for writing what we are ALL thinking from time to time. I LOVE your honesty : )


Just beautiful Jeanne...those words are so true...friendships are very important. I hear all the time to "Be Intentional" and as a side note I love your artwork that says exactly that..."Be intentional"...even though I just know you from your blog and ordering from you...you are a wonderful person and love your outlook:) Have a great Thanksgiving:)


What a powerful post! Thanks for sharing what many of us are feeling right now as well!



This seems to be a theme lately. I feel like as women we come to a crossroad where we have to make decisions that are best for us. The popularity contest is over. It really just doesn't matter anymore. Sometimes reality hurts...bad. That is where our growth comes from. However, reality is also so sweet. It allows us to truly cherish the wonderful women we do have in our lives. That is when we realize that having a few amazing friends is all we really need or want. I am so blessed and lucky to call you my friend. I will call you this week to check in. I need me some Jeanne time!!!
ps. thanks for a great post. You said what I was feeling with such grace and clarity....THANK YOU!!!

Queen Bee

Wow...have you been reading my mind? Friends are like gardens...your start with a good soil and pick the seeds you want to grow there...nuture, care and feed them...and sometimes what we thought were flowers are weeds...taking over all of the lovely things that grow there...and in the spirit of what you said..it's okay to weed our gardens...


it's funny...i don't know why...but i have long felt this way; at least since my college years. and in fact, some people used to say that i was too picky or too judgemental or some such thing. but i have always believed that my time and energies are valuable, and should only be spent wisely...i prefer being alone to being involved in superficial or immature relationships. and the thing is - i really do like people and i'm always described by others as a "people person"...it's just that i reserve my time for people who are genuine and honest and have depth...

melody ross

I love this so much and have been feeling exactly the same way lately, though I didn't even realize that this was what was happening....you have given me more validation and permission to feel this way.....it's just so important to "be choosy" isn't it? Either we fill our lives with the things that are best for us....or life fills us overflowing with things that cause stress, steal joy and waste our precious time........

Let me tell you.....I am SO THANKFUL to have had the gift of spending that glorious week with you......I would "choose" you any day and you are such a gift....



Perfectly said. I related so much to what you wrote. I have had my heart broken more than once by friendships and it has made me very wary of getting too close to people. I wish/hope that as time goes on that I will change and have wonderful close friendships that are so important!


Oh Jeanne ~ you nailed this! I completely agree with everything you said. There are true friends and there are acquaintances. I surround myself with people that know me, the real me and like me anyway. Girlfriends that just know by a look or a tone how I am feeling ~ when I need to talk or just be. I believe that as we get older, we come to this realization. Toxic and one sided friendships, well I just don't have time for them. They are relationships that you should not need to work at or coddle ~ put on your big girl panties and give something back already! I love this post.

Tricia Whisler

Jeanne, this post was amazing! Like Queen Bee said, it's time to weed the garden. I have been needing to do this for a long time. It's also time to plant some new seeds! I hope you are having a fabulous weekend!


What a great post! I agree with you on all of it. As we get older, there is just not time for friendships that take away more from us than they give. If all women stood together instead of working against each other, we could rule this world!! :)

Leah C

Such true words...beautifully put:) I agree, we need to be choosy, and then we need to treat our friendships with lots of TLC:)


So many of the same thoughts that have been in my mind and heart lately. I'm afraid, though that I'm not always a very good friend. I would like to be a better friend and to have good, real friends who I can be honest with and vice versa. I do need to be intentional about who I surround myself with and find more supportive people - I think if it can all come from a place of intention, then it will work out! Hopefully!


Beautiful post. :) I agree with you 100%. I'm very choosy when it comes to those that I trust enough to bear my soul to. I have a handful of close girlfriends...these are girls that I know would drop everything to be there in a second if I needed them. They pray for me and with me. They are real and genuine...I cherish them. Thanks for sharing! :)


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